Student: They'll Never Take Our Freeeedom
Time for a Life Change?
The idea of freedom is one that comes in many forms. Some classify it as their release from a toxic person or relationship, maybe even the release from a horribly soulless job, or perhaps the extreme such as the trials and tribulations of the law when an outcome has been finalised. It's fair to say these are classified as types of "long term freedom." By this I mean it may not feel great in the moment, but it's needed to obtain further, more meaningful emotions like closure, relief or peace.
As with anything long term category, there are short term examples too. Some forms of short term freedom can be the feeling of release from the shackles of your desk at work every Friday evening, or getting out the house to get a break from the family- all of which I don't think are sustainable to resolving the problem in hand.
Personally, freedom for me has to come with long term outcomes that benefit me. Leaving a job I didn't enjoy really benefited me, and yes I felt some levels of the long term freedom emotions discovered above as a result. But that feeling fades, and something else quickly sets in - fear.
Take The Plunge
The fear of how to make money, how to sustain a living, of what other people think or even second guessing if you should have left that job. All of these fears are completely normal, and as long as you can make your peace with these factors setting in, you'll be ok and stay focused. Take up a part time job to keep you ticking financially to make the minimum amount to fund personal bills and food/travel expenses. It's actually quite fulfilling stripping yourself of too much money as weird as it sounds. You don't have excess amounts of money to spend on stupid stuff like a random magazine you liked at WHSmith or have the ability to go shopping on an odd Saturday for some stuff you really don't need.
However, that next step of your life or career won't fall into your lap. Those guilt factors are designed to keep you motivated to continue moving. Find out what you want to do next, and try to learn a new skill you've wanted to for a long time. It could be the key to your next step in your career, or figuring out what you really want to do with life. You can't sit at home all day and think what if or wait for the next opportunity to come your way. You need to go out there and get it; no one is going to come to your doorstep and offer the job of your dreams.
Don't get me wrong, this won't be easy or straightforward. It's going to be really arduous, expensive and time consuming but I see it as a small price to pay that will help others around me and most importantly myself. If I'm happy, then I can be really beneficial as a friend or family member to others, and that to me is priceless.
You Always have a Choice
If you take anything away from this article, it's to remember that you hold the power of freedom in the palm of your hand. You can quit your job you don't enjoy it. You don't necessarily need another job lined up, if it's breaking you down and affecting your health or relationships with others you'll serve yourself better long term to leave. Be happy, take an extended break from work if you need to and travel perhaps, but one day that ride has to end I'm afraid and the next step of fear will set in eventually. The question is, how will you handle it?